Recently I read this Danielle LaPorte blog post that stuck with me in a big time way. In there she proclaims that “the journey has to feel the way you want the destination to feel,” — “you can’t fight your way to inner peace,” — and “you can’t punish your way to joy.”
These words have been rattling around in my head for nearly a month. It was the kind of message that stuck, because it was exactly what I needed to hear in that moment. It was the kind of message that made me pause.
And as I paused, I found myself asking questions and coming to realizations like:
- Do I want to force myself through another vinyasa? When I started practicing my motivation was to move with my body’s current so that I would feel strong and powerful, but in this moment I am fighting my need to rest in child’s pose in favor of a desire to punish myself for eating a cupcake earlier today….
- Do I want to shut down the computer and go to bed because it’s my ideal bedtime? Tomorrow I want to feel awake and clear-headed and if I stay up to watch another episode of Scandal (and really, who can watch just one?), that won’t happen…
- Do I want to eat a piece of candy every time I walk past a candy bowl at work? I want to feel joyful, but eating too much candy will make me feel a sugar-high followed by a crash of low energy and a glum mood…
The more I engaged in this kind of inquiry, the more clear things became. Ultimately this decision-making process boils down to one thing: operating from a place of love.
It’s a matter of deciding that you love yourself enough to take care of your needs.
If I want to feel connected, energized, joyful, confident, soulful, inspired, powerful, free, … then it’s up to me to decide that I’m willing to make decisions that will support those feelings.
If I don’t, then I won’t.
So with that in mind, I ask you — how do you want to feel?