My Weight

Love Yourself More

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They say that you should be careful when talking about religion and politics. Well, I would like to add one more subject to that list: my weight.

A little while ago someone I hadn’t seen for about a month asked me several very direct questions about my recent weight loss. (I did shed upwards of 35 pounds over the past year; more on that below.) Although I have been receiving a lot of weight-related comments recently, I was still quite stunned by the exceedingly personal and judgmental nature of her questions:

oh my god, you’ve lost a LOT of weight recently, right….?!

exactly how much weight have you lost, because I can tell it was a LOT…..?!

wow, how did you manage to lose ALL THAT WEIGHT………?!

Knowing that this person intended no harm and unsure of exactly how I wanted to respond, I gently avoided answering her questions … but this exchange definitely stuck with me.

See, the thing is that how I eat (and subsequently how much I weigh) is all wrapped up in how I feel about myself. Lately I have been caring for myself and my body very differently than I had in the past:

  • I remembered how much I love to exercise
  • I picked up a serious yoga habit
  • I find excuses to walk more often and spend less time on the couch
  • I stopped dieting and started focusing on eating when I’m hungry (not when I’m upset, bored, etc.)
  • I’m learning how to tune in to my body’s needs
  • I try to eat foods that I know will make my body feel good (emphasis on “try” … I did have cookies for breakfast today)
  • I cut out caffeine (daily latte) and started drinking lots of herbal tea and water
  • I started taking a daily multivitamin
  • I try to get enough sleep (work in progress)
  • I read self-help books (especially impactful: Brene Brown and Geneen Roth)
  • I’m in therapy

The bottom line is that I have not lost weight through any radical weight-loss scheme or hard-core exercise plan; I lost the weight as a by-product of the fact that lately I have been loving myself more (at least more than I used to) … and boy is that a tough subject for casual conversation! 

Now don’t get me wrong, my point is not that I never want to talk about my weight, or that you should avoid talking about weight all together. (In fact, I would love to sit down with you over a cup of tea and discuss this topic at great length, just as I enjoy talking about religion and politics!) But I do hope that we’ll all try to tread gently on what can be a highly charged and sensitive topic for many of us – our weight.


  1. Thanks very nice blog!

    1. Thank YOU for reading! :)

  2. It’s a very personal subject. I wish people could focus on other things more and our external appearance a lot less. But…congrats!

    1. Agreed! Thank you for the comment and sorry for my long delay in responding… I figure, better late than never!! :)

  3. This is a brilliant piece of blogging. Weight is such a personal topic!

    1. Thanks!! And 100% agreed- so personal! =)

  4. Congrats on being FP’d… of course I took a look around… we have a lot in common… I look forward to following you. You have a great “voice.”


    1. Thanks so much for saying that. For a long time I’ve struggled with this story about how “I don’t have a voice” … working on letting that one go (work in progress :)).

  5. Nice blog. Yeah, I always hated it when people mentioned my weight.

  6. […] Banish “Have You Lost Weight?” From Your Vocabulary — my friend Rebekah wrote about this here. […]

  7. You inspire me day in and day out. Thank you.

    1. Right back at you friend. <3

  8. <3 you have a beautiful way with words.

    1. Thank you Rona! I’ve been enjoying reading your blog too! =)

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